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6 cards from 4 lives on identity & belonging.
🧭 Identity & belonging · 🧠 Mental health · ☀️ Joy & gratitude
There has never been another you in the whole history of the world, and there never will be — you are a limited edition, impossible to replace. Worth was never something I had to earn or be granted; it came built in. Begin by loving your own body and your own mind. Everything else grows from there.
To someone younger: Treat yourself like the limited edition you are. There has only ever been one.
🙏 Faith & doubt · ☀️ Joy & gratitude · 🧭 Identity & belonging
I once asked, plainly, why I had been given life at all. The answer I received was just as plain: to love, and to be happy. Not to earn your place, not to suffer your way to worthiness — simply to love, to be happy, and to be grateful you are here at all.
To someone younger: You weren't born to earn your place. You were born to love and to be happy.
❤️ Love & dating · ☀️ Joy & gratitude · 🧭 Identity & belonging
Since 1987, at every wedding, someone's aunt has asked me — gently, as one inquires after a limp — whether I never wanted to marry. Here is the answer at full length, recorded so I can finally stop giving it: I wanted my life. I got it. Whole decades of mornings that belonged entirely to me, work I loved past reason, forty-one students who are my descendants in the way that counts for me, and friendships forty years deep that nobody ever asked me to rank. A life can be full in more shapes than the one on the greeting cards. Mine was one of the other shapes. It held.
To someone younger: A full life comes in more shapes than the cards print. Pick yours on purpose.
— Dr. Priya Sharma · Immunologist — thirty-four years at NIH, BethesdaDemonstration
🌱 Parenting & raising children · 🧭 Identity & belonging
딸아이는 변호사가 되었고, 한국말을 잊었습니다. 전화를 하면 저는 한국말로 묻고 아이는 영어로 대답합니다. 삼십 년을 그렇게 했습니다. 옛날에는 그것이 서러웠는데 지금은 압니다. 그 영어 대답 속에 효도가 들어 있다는 것을요. 말이 반만 통해도 마음이 다 통하는 수가 있고, 말이 다 통해도 마음이 반도 안 통하는 수가 있습니다. 두 언어 사이에서 아이를 키우는 부모님들, 반쪽 대화를 너무 슬퍼하지 마세요. 어느 나라 말로 하든, 사랑한다는 말은 다 들립니다.
To someone younger: 아이가 어느 나라 말로 대답하는지 보지 말고, 대답한다는 것을 보세요.
— 박순자 (Park Soon-Ja) · 애넌데일에서 31년간 세탁소를 꾸린 할머니Demonstration
🧳 Endings & new chapters · 🏡 Home & hospitality · 🧭 Identity & belonging
비행기에서 운 것은 무서워서가 아니었습니다. 어머니가 싸 주신 김치를 김포 공항에서 다 버리고 온 것이 그제야 생각나서였습니다. 그때는 그것이 제일 큰일인 줄 알았지요. 살아 보니 이민이라는 것은 큰 결심 한 번이 아니라 작은 이별 만 번입니다. 그래도 갑니다. 가서, 새 땅에서 김치를 새로 담그면 됩니다. 맛이 좀 다르면 어떻습니까. 그것이 그 땅의 우리 집 맛이 되는 것입니다.
To someone younger: 다 가지고 갈 수는 없습니다. 담그는 법만 가져가면 됩니다.
— 박순자 (Park Soon-Ja) · 애넌데일에서 31년간 세탁소를 꾸린 할머니Demonstration
🧳 Endings & new chapters · 🛠️ Work & calling · 🧭 Identity & belonging
For nineteen years, every question anyone asked me — at dinner, at church, at my daughter's games — was really a question about the company. Then one Tuesday it belonged to someone else, and I found out I'd quietly sold them my answer to "who are you" along with the trucks. Nobody buys that on purpose. It just goes in the box with everything else. Rebuilding an answer takes longer than the earnout, and there's no banker for it.
To someone younger: Build one thing the company can't own. Start it the same year you start the company.
— Marcus Reyes · Built a freight company for nineteen years, then sold itDemonstration
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